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Is there really such thing as “love”, or is it just a marketing tool?
With 6 billion people on earth, it is hard to believe that you can ever possibly end up with the single most compatible mate for you. Life is a series of compromises, relationships are no exception.
“Love” is a word that was coined to sell cards, jewellry, and chocolates.
Prove me wrong.
When I said “prove me wrong”, I meant that I would like to hear a convincing argument that the concept of love had truth behind it.
I don’t consider stories of relationships which lasted 40 years to be solid evidence. Most people simply don’t have the energy to maintain an active social life beyond one romantic interest, and are conditioned by society to believe that there is someone out there that they should spend there life with.
correction: their*
Also used in tennis.
Love is not pure, it is demanding and has expectations. Pure love opens the connection.
“Love” between a man and a woman has always existed. It’s a true fact…In fact, it so true that I really don’t know how would YOU prove it to be false!
Yeah, that Mother Teresa — what a calculating, shallow media whore, right?
EDIT — I got two thumbs down?? I guess people didn’t realize I was using wit.
Basically, my point was that pure love does exist. [The asker seemed to hint at meaning only romantic love.] That someone like Mother Teresa could spend years and years selflessly helping the very poorest people is a testament to the magnificence of pure love.
In india once married is married for life. Divorce and remarriage are very rare. In fact the love starts after marriage as in most cases the spouse is selected by parents or elders and marriages are arranged. The love starts after marriage.
Hence love is not a word coined to sell cards, jewellary and chocolates.
6 billion! heck! in the US theres only about 300 million, and if you live here that’s your odds! and still theres people feeling love.
why dont you fall in love first buddy.
while businesses do use love to sell cards jewellery and chocolates… it really doesnt have to do with love unless that whats your buying them for. I can get you a card that says, you;re stupid for asking this question, with a bracelet thats says single, and a box a chocolates in a heart shape because they were on sale… not because i love you or care how they are marketed as, just because your an idiot.
Love is a feeling, i cant prove you wrong until you find someone who you want to make feel speicial because you spent time and money to get them stupid jewellery or what ever.
My relationship is a living proof of you to be wrong.
I agree….
There is nothing called pure or true love..
The only thing which is there is Friendship, Understanding and Trust.
If this exists, any relationship can go ahead.
there is no single special person for u. marketing companies make u feel that there is someone who is special for u, that someone will find u special and rate u better than the others. since ur mind has made these assumptions, u feel secure by receiving their love.
more than some candies and chocolates, this feeling has been exploited by movies, television, and romance novel writers.
those who wanna live in their bubble, good 4 u.
I can’t believe some people here. how can u get mixed up with romantic, platonic love he is trying to describe with mother teresa? do u lack basic english skills?
i can’t prove u wrong becuase i sincerely don’t believe there is one and only for person for u. as for love itself, i do believe familiarity, understanding and certain qualities make it grow.
Love is the need for something, like a person needs oter people so they love them wether they are the same *** or not, and then also, when people “fall in love” all it is the great need for them, greater for that particular person than any other.
Love was coined to sell stuff, but also to help us express our emotions and feelings easily wiothout having to write a full essay just to be saying i need you an always will do, the word love you is used.
when you say prove me wrong, you want people to prove to you that love exists? how so?
the only way to prove love exists is to say that you are in love yourself…
most people just hope that love is out there, and could spend their whole lives looking for it
LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL and that’s what this world doesn’t have right now.
You’ll feel love too, and admit it, you felt one some time in your life. It may not be for somebody else, but come to think of your relatives…
No to answer your question, people have different perceptions of love. Sometimes, they may call it security, not for themselves but to others. People want their loved ones to be safe and even think of what’s best for them because they love them.
As for me, love is a means of happiness, considering others too, being happy of what you felt for them.
love is real, but so is scams.
through out the ages con men and women have devised many ways to rip people off.
pyramid schemes, lotto schemes, insurance scams…
the list goes only.
In a capitalist society, we try to profit off of everything! basic needs, manufactured needs, loneliness, depression, physical illness, mental illness, joy, sadness, hope, love, pride… whatever. it’s just a means to make MONEY!
Sad really, as Love is reduced to a means to make money.
but not really as the sick and dying are reduced to cash cows nowadays.
Depends upon what we are marketing… our honesty or our pretence about it.
Even shares/stocks are marketed and innocent people end up either holding a more valuable share of that company or just a worthless paper bearing that bogus company’s name !
Oy. People buy those cards jewelery, and chocolates to help express their love. Its why Valentine’s day is a successful day for stores like CVS. But those aren’t the only gifts people buy. You don’t buy something for someone if you knew they probably wouldn’t like it– that proves you know, care, and want to make the recipient happiest– that feeling otherwise known as love.
You’re right, though– sometimes people don’t end up with the single most compatible partner for them. Some don’t get married ever, or get divorced if they are. Thats why many people go through a series of boyfriends and girlfriends before they meet “the one,” who they find the most compatible to be with. And perhaps that person argues with you a lot– but in a good match, there are always make ups afterwards. Yes, there are compromises in relationships. But the will to compromise your wallet for your spouse, to give up Sunday football, or turn off the t.v, is love.
I think its very hard to describe emotions with words– people often use them in the wrong way. But I hear that “love” is the best and most magnificent of human feeling, so it’d be a blast to my hopes if there weren’t really a such thing. Someone once told me to think with your heart, and feel with your mind.
Its hard, but give it a shot.
probably, you might not have heard of a person talking against love. not exactly. i also like love like a smoker liking a cigarete, like a alcoholic liking drinks, a debauchee liking a woman. these are all natural to a human being. but being a human being, we are also given with a gift of thinking. we are able to identify what is good and what is bad. you may agree with me in restraining every thing mentioned above except love. but according to me love also a thing meant for restraining. probably, majority of the evils prevailing in present society, may be due to this one factor. because we love our wife and children, we want to earn one extra buck. for that, we compromise in work place. because we love our brothers, we favour him among the most suitable. because we love our parents, we want to spend extra money on them for which we have to compromise somewhere. though it is possible to love and not to compromise, we fail to restrain our mind. i am not against love. i also do love people of my circle, but i try to restrain compromising.
Love is willing the good of the other as other and not as an extension of one’s ego driven desires. The reduction of love to a subjective preference or emotion is a characteristic of late modernity, and is perhaps the reason why your commentary on your question seems to indicate that the essential nature of love cannot be known. However, consider love as an act of the will that seeks another person’s objective good and the subjective, emotional prejudice begins to dissipate. Postulating that love is an act of the will, re-orients your line of questioning from “is there really such a thing as love” to “is love a real possibility given the demands of the ego and the finitude and contingency of the human condition.”
With all of my broken heart, I believe in Love. Just not a forever thing. Therefore, the broken heart. Not romance, not sex, not dependence, but love.
love is a biological evolved reality that existed well before cards, jewelery. chocolates, capitalism or even drunk leprechuans armed with cudgels. if there were not these chemical attachments that humans have they would have evolved much differently or maybe even died out. sexual selection is the major determinate of social organization. these chemical reactions have been observed by mice in labs. there are the bonobo chips who don’t really have these chemical attachments. they treat *** like a hand shake, communal bonding, making friends etc of course they evolved very differently, child bonobos are raise communally by all the females. if Bonobos had evolved to our level family units would be like large groups of women and the males would be less competitive or aggressive etc.